Know when to hold um, know when to fold um.
By The Arrow Preacher
As most of us know the song by Kenny Rogers, it’s great advice that old man gave on that lonely train. Though a parable the example of knowing when to fight for something, and knowing when to walk away, and knowing when to run and not look back is good advice we all should follow.
Personally I’ve gone through a very rough divorce and as hard as it’s been at some point you have to learn when to cut ties and run away. As hard as it’s been emotionally I still find myself sitting on the couch crying after a blog, after a song, watching a movie that brings back memories. The worst part is working at the very spot I once proposed. Seeing it every day, thinking about how nervous I was, how upset I was that it was raining, it’s a reminder every day.
Having faith is hard. Knowing that God is always with us, and remembering that in the hardest of times of our lives, but it’s so important for us to keep the faith. 1 John 5:5 “Who is it that overcomes the world? Only the one who believes that Jesus is the Son of God.” We need to be steadfast in our walk with Christ so when the time comes we can judge if something is better or worse. James 1:6 “But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.” Let’s remember though, that having faith is also having faith that whatever we need to do is right or wrong. When a relationship turns bad and is no longer healthy, and can no longer be repaired, sometimes it’s best to run away. Figuring out what hand you have and figuring out what cards to play is something that takes patience and a walk close enough to God to know what to do. You should always try your hardest to save a life you’ve built with someone if ever it can be.
Due to the invention by God of free will we cannot change what other people do. People will use you, cheat you, abuse you, and all you can do is figure out how much are you willing to take? Even sitting at a poker table the table can eventually get cold, and it’s time to get up and walk away. Don’t be afraid to say goodbye to something causing you pain. Much like a gangrenous limb, you must sever the limb to save the body. Our souls are very similar. Hate and pain can be a cancer for our very souls, and in order to prevent scar tissue from forming hardening our hearts, we must be willing to let go and push forward to heal. So know when to throw in your cards, pick up your chips win or lose, and walk away. Don’t think of it as failure. Think of it as protecting your very soul. Even Thomas Edison once said once asked about how many times he failed to create the light bulb. “I have not failed. Ive just found 10’000 ways that it won’t work.”